My Worst Fears for My Transgender Wife and Children Have Come to Fruition
By U. A. Nigro
Throughout the day I experience spells of outrage and anger. However when I lay my head on the pillow at night, the fear creeps in. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually I am worn out. But I am a strong woman who has survived many catastrophes in her life, this just happens to be the latest one.
“…I AM CONTEMPLATING HOW EXACTLY I AM GOING TO HELP MY PARTNER, MYSELF, AND OUR CHILDREN GET THROUGH THE NEXT FOUR YEARS.”
So as I sit at my computer I am contemplating how exactly I am going to help my partner, myself, and our children get through the next four years. How am I going to support my community and lift them up as human beings? How can I inject love into the world where it is void?
It seems that without even giving it much thought, we have in my house already engaged each other in step one. That is to talk to one another. We have done tons of talking in the past week to each other and friends who are like-minded. Hashing out everything from our worst fears of the next four years, to what types of action we can take. How to become more involved and bring not only our community together but the other communities also affected. Such as single mothers, low income families, and groups of minorities.
Second on my list would be safety. As our oldest prepared to march in protest from Union Square Park in New York City to Trump Tower we suggested that she remain at all times with friends. There is safety in numbers. It is imperative at this time and in this climate to intact the buddy system. Try not to be out alone in places that don’t seem safe. The erratic acts of violence have befallen people when they were by themselves. Of course you cannot be with your spouse all day, every day, but you should make an effort when time allows you to.
“GIVE TO YOUR LOCAL LGBTQ+ ORGANIZATION AND OTHERS ACROSS THE COUNTRY IN NEED.”
Next I would search out ways to help in your town. You can donate time at your local community center. You can give non-perishable food to a local food pantry. Reach out to your neighbor. It could be as small of a gesture as a smile and a wave or as large as a pop in to say hi, we are here if you need anything. With the holidays looming, there are churches of all dominations that help the less fortunate with food, toys, and warm clothes for the winter. Give to your local LGBTQ+ organization and others across the country in need.
Don’t let your overwhelming feelings of sadness turn into desperation. Now is not the time to become disengaged. Stand up for what you believe in and let your voice be heard. Pick up the phone and volunteer for your local public officials who promise to get through legislation that works for everyone, not just a chosen few. Form an alliance in your area. Let your local community know that you care and are willing to help. Together we can find a silver lining in all this. Personally I have had several people go out of their way to reach out and let me know that I have their love and support. Never loose hope. Let it be the start to every new day and live the love you preach.