@BobbiDare, I think that you are probably correct. I have had so many women tell me that they could never stay. They would be their wife's best friend, but that would be it. @Mikaela Yes, we are through most of the tough stuff. My wife has been full time for several years now. I write so that other partners and spouses can see that transition is not the end of the world, and that if you truly love each other, your relationship will be stronger in the end. :)

"Am I Staying With My Transgender Wife Because I Fear Being Alone?"

“I still do not understand why people think that this is acceptable”

You read my mind.

“I have surmised that the average human on the street knows nothing about the transgender population”

I would also add that fundamentalist evangelical, republicans, tv, and comedians, have done their best over the course of history to devalue our humanity, our dignity, for their own, religious, political, and monetary, gains. I find the religious motivations to be the most egregious, disingenuous, insidious, of them all, you EXPECT BETTER of “christians” unquote, even if they genuinely believe you are a sinner, the lgbt is NOT a special class of people for their whims.

Don’t let the, ignorance, the divisiveness of our society, the hate, of others, take what you HAVE.

“It has been three years since my wife and I have gone public about her transition”

Sounds like you’ve made it through the hard part of married transition. Is this a trans issue? Have the two of you put so much energy into making it through to this time and are now setting into a lull, a routine, a new normal, that you were unprepared for?

“I made a vow to her for better or worse “

Well, there is that, and I do put a “LOT” on that, nearly everything on that. On the other hand, you must do what’s right for you, too. If you’re are not there, if your wife is not there, is there a relationship, is it healthy, for either of you, or is this a “NORMAL” low in the relationship, have the two of you done everything you can to bring it back, is there anything to bring back. Marriage is never easy over the long haul, nor should it be a battle, it's never an easy answer when you’ve reached certain milestones.

I interpreted this question as more about her personal fear of being alone. She was projecting onto your situation the emotions that she would feel: duped, discarded, angry, afraid and helpless. I am going through this with my wife and when I first told her she had all of those - and is still dealing with them. She is working through her feelings but when I told her her first reaction was that we were over as a couple, that she had lost her husband to be replaced with this stranger. Fortunately we are moving past this but I can imagine that the person who asked this question was thinking along those lines.