What would you do if you met a man who was otherwise ideal, who asked you to marry him, but he wanted to be a stay at home Dad? Would that be a deal breaker, do you think a compromise could be found? And what (else) would be a deal breaker with an otherwise ideal man?

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Frankandthebadseeds
Frankandthebadseeds

I will be the first to admit i am ignorant on the subject of religion. So please understand my question is truly not coming from a place of malice. What values does religion teach that a person can not learn from school and non religious parents? I chalk up my moral compass to hardcore and punk rock more than anything to be honest. I would like to think am a moral dude. My girlfriend higher morals then me.

RoamingMillennial
RoamingMillennial

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@Jimmy_Nelly If my husband and I had different religions, I'd say raise the kids with traditions from both and teach them about both.
And yes @Frankandthebadseeds I do think morals without religion are possible (don't murder, charity and kindness is good, etc.) but that overall, there are values and priorities that religions promote that secularism/atheism does not.

Frankandthebadseeds
Frankandthebadseeds

Do you believe that one can have morals without religion?

Jimmy_Nelly
Jimmy_Nelly

Would you insist on your kids being raised in your religion? What would you do if your partner was very insistent on you or your kids being raised in his religion, which would be very probable if you went with a Muslim?

RoamingMillennial
RoamingMillennial

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@Frankandthebadseeds I wouldn't mind if my partner didn't go to church with me every week, although I would like it if he did. But to me it's really more of a values test than wanting a certain level of church attendance.
And @Jimmy_Nelly it would need to be a religion that's compatible to my own. So Catholicism, most types of Protestantism, Judaism, certain types of Islam would be fine, but belief systems like Mormonism, Scientology, Hinduism, and Buddhism would be too different.

Jimmy_Nelly
Jimmy_Nelly

So any potential partner has to be religious? Any religion as long as they are religious?

RamsayBolton
RamsayBolton

I'm not sure if Roaming reads the replies to her responses (doesn't seem like it), so you might be better off asking this as its own question if you want Roaming to see, and hopefully answer, it!

Frankandthebadseeds
Frankandthebadseeds

I do not mean to pry I understand you hold religious beliefs and thats cool I do too. though my thoughts on organized religion is complicated, but my girlfriend is an atheist and it doesn't get in between us. If you don't mind me asking is church service and everything that goes along with it something that you see as a family thing? Again I understand it is important to you and I would believe something you'd like to share with your children. I guess what I'm getting at is could you see it as on Sunday you head to church and he say does yard work? Like alone time.

RoamingMillennial
RoamingMillennial

I think stay-at-home dads are great! It absolutely wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me, we could take turns being the stay-at-home parent so both of us could get to spend time with our children :)
It's tough to list qualities that would be deal-breakers off the top of my head, but some of the first things that come to mind that would let me know someone isn't the right partner for me would be (in no particular order) atheism, not being generous, drug use, a lot of partying, lying, not wanting children, not wanting a marriage, and not getting along well with my family.



Konoruck
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