The Evolution and Future of the Silence Breaking Movement

One can hardly turn on the TV without hearing the story of a woman who endured
horrendous abuse at the hands of a man in

It seems that with every new day, the news explodes
with yet another accusation of sexual abuse against a well-known public figure.

While the cases of famous people who have been
sexually harassed or abused have brought needed attention to life-changing issues, they also shed light on the plight of women who work less glamorous jobs as well. One hotel maid cries as she remembers the time a guest asked her in to do room cleaning while he sat masturbating. Many servers report that
sexual harassment such as crude jokes about their looks and intrusive pats on the bum are everyday occurrences if they want to earn tips.

While the #MeToo movement and the strong women who
have come forward have helped break the silence around sexual assault and harassment, we as a society have a long way to go to address these issues in a meaningful way.

TheOrigins of #Me Too

While most of us have probably heard of the #MeToo
movement by now, fewer people know that the movement actually had its start over 10 years ago. Tarana Burke, an activist from Harlem, recalls the day she was inspired to create the movement. Burke ran a nonprofit called Just Be Inc. when one of her child clients reported that her mother's boyfriend was sexually abusing her. Burke coined the phrase and began
a lifetime of work to bring attention to sexual abuse of young girls among the community she served.

Today, actress Alyssa Milano has brought the #MeToo
hashtag to a wider audience, creating a nationwide movement to expose how widespread sexual abuse and harassment really are. Milano, who credits Burke for founding the moment, has helped to inspire millions of victims of abuse to come forward and discuss their abuse by sharing the hashtag.

SexualAbuse as a Silent Epidemic

Burke and Milano's work is particularly important
given the way many victims of sexual harassment and sexual abuse are shamed into silence.

There are many reasons why women don't leave an abusive situation. In the case of sexual abuse, many times the
abuser may control the household finances, leaving the woman
without the financial resources to leave. The abuser may have threatened toharm children, pets or other family members or friends if the victim leaves. Many times, simply the fear that their abuser may find them if they leave and harm them further or even kill them is enough to prevent the woman from leaving.

The reasons women don't leave a sexual harassment situation, particularly in the workplace, can be similar. Many women are afraid to leave a hostile workplace as, in uncertain economic times, finding another job that pays as well may seem impossible. For those who are in high-profile professions such as newscasters or actors, victims may hold their silence for fear of forever tarnishing their reputation. Lower-income workers who have no safety net to fall back on may stay in hostile work situations to preserve the only form of income they have.

In all cases, shame remains a huge factor preventing women from coming forward. The question of “What if I am not believed” hangs heavy on an abused woman's heart when she contemplates reporting. If the allegations are not substantiated by evidence, the reporting woman could face ridicule from co-workers, family and friends over their choice to come forward.

Breakingthe Silence

As difficult as it may be to come forward, it is critical for women to do so — not only to empower others to do the same, but also to receive the resources they need to recover from extremely traumatizing events.

Furthermore, it is crucial for survivors of sexual abuse and sexual harassment to obtain counseling to process their experiences. Some workplaces provide employee-assistance programs for employees facing difficulties, but if it is too uncomfortable to speak with someone from your workplace, you can seek out therapists that provide income-based payments or explore self-help books on your own.

Moving Forward: Real Acts to End Sexual Harassment and Abuse

Now that the issues of sexual abuse and sexual harassment are in the limelight, it is important that we all work collectively
to implement solutions to alleviate the suffering of victims and eliminate these crimes.

Experts in the field have devised several solutions to address the issue and new reporting policies are under review in workplaces nationwide. First and foremost, we need to hold the Harvey Weinsteins of the world accountable for their actions. We need to make sure they face disciplinary measures and possible
criminal penalties for their crimes. More laws are needed, and existing laws need to be followed more strictly than they currently are.

Secondly, and most importantly, we need to believe
women. We need to stop questioning things like what clothing she was wearing. Instead, we need to create a safe place for women to share their stories. For women in the workplace, this may mean an independent panel to evaluate complaints that is independent of the employer, as the employer's goal can often be to smooth things over, and not necessarily to fully address the
woman's complaint.

We've come a long way in bringing awareness to sexual
assault and harassment. It's now time that we take decisive action to hold abusers accountable and inspire other victims to come forward in safety to share their tales. We must listen to, and believe, the women brave enough to come forward.

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KateHarveston
KateHarveston

Editor

Thank you, Philip! I'm glad you enjoyed it, and agree entirely. An all-inclusive movement is the only one that will keep us progressing in the right direction. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts :)

Philip Carino
Philip Carino

Lovely article Kate! It pinpoints what the previous #metoo movement has shied away from -- the voiceless, faceless abused. It's all about glitz and glamorous hollywood a-listers. Totally support a movement for all, inclusive, embracing.

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