In Conversation with May McCarthy, Bestselling Author of The Gratitude Formula.
SK: What does living with gratitude mean to you?
MM: Gratitude is a choice. All of us can choose to find something in our lives to be grateful for like friends, family, health, even a parking space up front while running errands. When you choose to be grateful, two benefits are realized: first, studies have shown that being grateful produces better health and well-being. Second, I believe that being grateful is a tool for success – it tends to help you to notice more possibilities and intuitive messages that can lead you to your goals. It magnetizes you to achieve your goals sooner.
SK: In your book The Gratitude Formula: A 7-Step Success System to Create a Life That You Love you state that success is a system, not a secret. Could you please elaborate more on this subject?
MM: I believe that people are powerful and can achieve anything that they desire as long as they have the belief that it’s possible. Everyone had proved that they could incorporate a system to succeed when they learned to write, read, ride a bike, type and drive a car. They used consistency and daily practice to achieve these goals. The system for success that I describe in my book has three main elements. First, use a daily practice and your words, thoughts, and emotions to describe your achieved goals each day with gratitude. So, instead of saying “I want to lose 10 pounds,” you might say “I’m so grateful that I am physically fit, toned, energetic in a healthy pain-free body that is easily able to move through life. I delight in looking great in my clothes.” The second element is to make what you want familiar and welcome. Go out to find stories about people who have achieved the goals that you have. Make their journeys familiar to you. As you do this, your beliefs will shift to one of possibility – you’ll begin to believe “if they can do it, I can do it.” Finally, you will need to recognize and follow the intuition that will guide you in taking steps to live the life that you desire. Perhaps you’ll have a strong thought to call someone or go somewhere. You might have a gut instinct to take some action, or you might have a sign that is external to you from someone else or in writing that points the way. Take the steps that your intuition guides you to take.
SK: What is the Daily Success System? How long have you been using this system?
MM: There are seven steps in the Success System outlined in the Gratitude Formula.
- Each day, use the daily practice with gratitude.
- Create and use powerful goal statements with gratitude to attract your desires.
- Choose goals that are right for you, not goals that others have for you.
- Recognize that it’s your brain’s love for you that can sometimes put the messaging from your Source on mute. Keep up with the daily practice and make what you want familiar.
- Be patient when waiting for intuitive messages – don’t force action.
- Be disciplined in using your success system even when there is a pullback in your old way of life.
- Discover your purpose of adding fuel and passion to your goals and success
SK: What does the morning meeting with your Chief Spiritual Officer or CSO look like?
MM: There are four steps in the morning meeting with my Source of Intuition who I affectionately refer to as the Chief Spiritual Officer or CSO:
- Each day read something inspirational,
- Write out a gratitude letter to your Source of Intuition,
- Speak what you wrote out loud,
- Imagine yourself in your mind’s eye, experiencing your achieved goal.
Also part of the daily practice is to expect to receive intuitive messages and signs to take action. When you take some action even if you haven’t achieved your goals, celebrate with someone and write it down as a proof that your partnership with your Source is working. At night, use a giving forth process to release anything that isn’t serving you so that you can make room for your Good.
SK: In your book, you wrote, “Don’t try to make things happen.” I have heard the opposite, “Make things happen!” What would happen if we stop forcing something? For example, get more clients, get paid more for our work, or have more peace in our lives.
MM: Don’t try to make things happen is a reminder to have patience and wait for a lead as an automatic message from your CSO. If you try to force action, you may fail. If you fail, your brain will know that you’re disappointed and will put your CSO messages on MUTE again. Wait for leads from your CSO before you take action.
SK: Who inspires you?
MM: For current spiritual teachers, Rev. Dr. Kathianne Lewis and my sister, Rev. Sharon Ramey of Centers for Spiritual Living. They both teach spiritual principles using stories and examples to show how to apply the principles in our day to day lives. Other spiritual teachers include Emma Curtis Hopkins who taught Ernest Holmes, the founder of Science of Mind, and the Fillmores, the founders of Unity Church. She is referred to as the “teachers’ teacher. And, my favorite teacher published in 1925 is Florence Scovel Shinn who wrote The Game of Life.
SK: What is your favorite quote?
MM: “Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough,” – Oprah Winfrey
SK: What is the source of your productivity and creativity?
MM: Spirit, God, Divine Intelligence, an all knowing power of the universe.
SK: What was the best advice you received from your parents?
MM: If you want to be successful and earn money, figure out a way to solve a problem or create a convenience that people need. Then, facilitate a fair exchange of value.
SK: What is your ultimate goal in life?
MM: To live my purpose – “to bless others and be blessed.”